After Cheating: Save Your Relationship Or Just Walk Away?

Your relationship can definitely be saved, but don’t be under any illusions of the task ahead of you

When cheating and adultery has reared its ugly head in your relationship or marriage it can be difficult to even think about trying to save your relationship. If you’re reading this after you have cheated or committed adultery, and you’re desperately searching online trying to find out a way to save your relationship or marriage, then you should be under no illusions of the task ahead of you.

Whatever the reason why you chose to cheat, you already know that you’ve broken your partner’s heart and you’ve let them down terribly. I say this not to make you feel even guiltier than you probably already feel, but to impress upon you the mayhem your actions have caused. Recovering from the situation that your relationship or marriage is now in, will take a focused, committed and detailed plan.

After having cheated or commited adultery, you must come to terms with the choices that you made.  Often times we find it difficult to accept the part that we have played in our own mess. It’s human nature to want to hide from what we have done and not take responsibility for for our actions. However, choosing to try and hide from the fallout of your affair is ultimately not going to serve you in the long run.  Instead, acknowledge and accept the reality of what you’ve done, own up to it, and tell your partner or spouse that you’re ready to do what ever it takes to save your relationship or marriage.

The truth is your partner or spouse might or might not believe you’re serious about saving your relationship.  An affair puts great strain on a couple.  A strong and healthy relationship thrives on mutual trust and commitment.  When that trust and commitment is broken, it is pretty hard, but not impossible, to get back.  So you’re going to have to be prepared to work hard to earn back your partner’s trust, and also be prepared to do whatever it takes as long as it takes to earn that trust back.

Often times, after cheating or adultery, the partner who has been cheated on is angry and will find different ways to seek emotional justice towards their cheating partner.  If your partner is lashing out at you emotionally then for some time, at least, you’re going to have to take it.  Of course this emotional lashing out shouldn’t go on for months, but for now, initially, this is something you’re going to have to put up with.

What you say now you must mean.  After cheating or adultery you will find that everything you say will be scrutinized and examined by your partner.  This again is only natural, but you must be careful not to get caught in any further lies.  Right now you have a job and a half to earn back your partner’s trust and respect. Imagine the setback if you were discovered in more lies.  So whatever you need to come clean about, come clean about it and avoid getting caught in any further lies.

Should you stay or should you go?  Only you can know the answer to that.  But if there is still love between you and your partner, then it might be worth attempting to save your relationship.



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